Princess Kate: Roughing It With the Windsors

Everyone appears to have something to say about the forthcoming wedding of William and Kate. Be it the mystery of the wedding dress, the potentially jinxed engagement ring, or the fact that the Queen will not meet Kate’s parents before the wedding, there surely is no shortage of opinions.

Very little, if anything at all, appears to have been written about how Kate is likely to adapt to royal life.  Some people do not even believe that the Royal Family wholeheartedly accepts Kate as  she is not of royal or noble blood.

So how many people are likely to be in this marriage? 2? 3? The whole country? What about the men in “grey suits,” did they survive to fight another day? Better still, what will Kate do for the next 30 years or so before she becomes Queen? For someone young and educated, will Kate get personal fulfilment from playing modern-day Florence Nightingale?  And how will she deal with the ever intrusive press? Let’s just say, the journey of a thousand miles sometimes begins with a broken fan belt and leaky tyre.

If the details of earlier failed royal marriages, as played out in the press, are anything to go by, the success of this union will definitely hinge upon the Royal Family and their courtiers taking a back seat and allowing William and Kate to chart their own marital course.

My royal survival tips for Kate stems from the need for careful consideration of the following:

Where to live:

There is much speculation over where William and Kate are likely to live after their wedding. Buckingham Palace and Kensington Palace have been mentioned as possibilities. Given that William is currently based at RAF Valley on Anglesey, were his works as a search and rescue pilot, the couple may initially live in or around Anglesey for a few years.

Now, let’s disregard Anglesey for a moment and pretend that the choice is really between Buckingham Palace and Kensington Palace.  Buckingham Palace, being the main London residence of the Queen is also the main hub of the Royal Court. For this reason, in my opinion, the spotlight will very much be on Kate in Buckingham Palace, which she may find a tad claustrophobic, to say the least.

Kensington Palace on the other hand is generally considered “out of the way.” Although some royal courtiers live in Kensington Palace, its layout and the fact that it is not one of the Queen’s UK residences, makes it atmospherically condusive compared to Buckingham Palace. Consequentially, Kensington Palace gets my vote.

Who to trust:

There is no foolproof way of recognising who is dependable and who is not. However, once Kate becomes a fully “signed up” member of the Royal Family, she will need to be careful of who she chooses to trust.

A considerable proportion of stories about the Royal Family, in the press , are actually sold to the tabloids by Royal Household staff. This same group of staff are well aware of the tabloid going rates for stories involving the Royal Family. It is disgraceful that people seek to benefit monetarily from betraying those who trust them.  Whether it is serving Royal Household staff or former staff selling stories of the Royal Family to the tabloids, it is outright treachery.  I also think it is appalling that former Royal Footman and Butler, Paul Burrell, amassed a healthy pension fund, by betraying royal trust.

The embarrassment caused by the Countess of Wessex, in 2001, when she was secretly taped during a discussion with an undercover reporter posing as a sheikh, is another example of trust issues Kate may find herself exposed to.

Dealing with royal protocol:

Royal protocol is the standard rules of appropriate behaviour, dress and  general good form within the royal court. As there are a considerable number of complex points of protocol, understanding and observing them may initially prove a daunting task.  Hopefully, William will make sure that Kate gets the support she needs in this area. However, in the interim, providing Kate remembers to avoid discussing politics, sex, money and other members of the Royal Family in public, she will be fine.

Michelle Obama: spontaneous show of affection or breach of royal protocol ?

Dealing with royal courtiers:

The royal courtiers are the lubricating oil of the royal machinery.  The royal courtiers, which includes Heads of Branch, Private Secretaries, and Ladies-in-Waiting, are a formidable group within the Royal Household. They advise and influence the Royal Family on a host of subjects.

Apart from Ladies-in-Waiting, who are mainly titled women of noble breeding, royal courtiers are, put rather bluntly, hired hands employed by the Royal Family to support the monarchy. It is an open secret that some of these hired hands have almost become more royal than the royals themselves. It is the  self-important types from among the royal courtiers that Kate may eventually have problems with. Those who follow royal stories will remember that the Late Princess Diana and the Duchess of York didn’t particularly see eye-to-eye with some of the “men in grey suits.”

In my opinion, Kate’s artillery for wading off any potential hostile advancement of royal courtiers lies in the Prince of Wales’ acceptance of her as a suitable daughter-in-law despite her non-royal and non-noble background.  If the Prince of Wales genuinely approves of Kate, she has nothing to fear from the chesty peacock courtiers.

If I had to choose one royal courtier I have a lot of respect for, it will have to be Sir Michael Peat. Sir Michael, who announced in January that he will be leaving the Royal Household to return to the private sector, was the Queen’s Keeper of the Privy Purse from 1996 -2002 and the Prince of Wales’ Private Secretary from 2002. He is truly a gentleman and  a decent role model. And I wish him the best for the future.

Happily married: King Abdullah II and Queen Rania of Jordan

Despite the much publicised failed marriages of members of the British Royal Family to commoners, these types of marriages can and do work. The marriages of Carl Gustaf and Silvia of Sweden, Abdullah and Rania of Jordan and Mohammed and Lalla Salma of Morocco are testament to this.

Agreed, it may take a lot of work to eventually gain the acceptance of members of the Royal Family and their courtiers, but maybe it is a price worth paying for falling in love with a royal. Kate will definitely need a strong and flexible character to rough it with the Windors.


12 responses to “Princess Kate: Roughing It With the Windsors

  1. Is Camilla giving Kate advise? What is she up to this time didn’t she give Diana advise?. A fox is always a fox

  2. ha ha, fuck the queen. wheel out the guillotine for the windsors.

  3. right on joe. along with their kike loving masonic institutions.

  4. Another interesting topic Skynoor I can’t wait to hear what you have to say about some of the other world shattering events going on.

    With regard to Kate and Wills, the questions are exactly the same as for any other young couple. Shall we live with the in-laws or not? Given that the in-laws are not short of a bob or two shall we accept a small house and a few servants from them or shall we insist on standing on our own two (four) feet and support ourselves by our own honest labour? Will we let family interference cause problems in our marriage? Will we let said servant meddle in our family life and sell our secrets to the press?

    Lets wish them well and hope they make sensible decisions for their own sakes. Either way it has little effect on Joe Bloggs

    • Hallo S. Karen, thank you for your kind comments.
      I am just wondering whether Kate and Wills will be allowed to support themselves by their “own honest labour” even though I am sure most of us Brits will welcome that ?

  5. Is Kate Middleton a young woman of substance? . Substance of the kind that Princesses Maxima, Mary of Denmark, Letiza of Spain, Sophie , Princess Diana prior to her marriage was a kindergarten teacher, Middle aged Camilla was a mother raised two children so as P. Mette-Marit who worked as a sales person in a dress shop and raised a son. These women possessed substance prior marrying into the Royal family. Women of Royal birth did needwork handicraft which they donate to charity. What did Kate do after leaving college?.
    Mette-Marit and Camilla were mothers therefore they know how to react to children

    • Hallo again Mavies, I guess time will tell whether Kate becomes a “young woman of substance.” Since leaving university she has worked for her parent’s online business and maybe one or two other outlets. We understand she has also helped design websites for clients – whatever that counts for. I am sure time will tell 🙂

  6. Dearest Twinkle:
    Thank you for your prompt response. I daresay that I am delighted that Kate is added to the list of Young Women of Substance” (Work Wise). A Job is a Job whether it is cleaning floors or being a woman Presedent of something.

  7. very good post .. . thanks for sharing. ..

    greeting from mas raden

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